Eating alone

I have been eating alone most of the times for the past six months. Eating alone is something that I did not like.

I love the fellowship with imperfect but definitely important fellow travellers over meals. The warmth, the handshake, the smile, the showing of loving concern for each other … are all parts of eating together.

In my library is a book titled, “Never Eat Alone” by Keith Ferrazzi. In smaller prints it reads “and other secrets to success, one relationship at a time”. The covers also reads, “The ultimate net worker reveals how to build a lifelong community of colleagues, contacts, friends and mentors.”

I pick up three points from the book. The three points may not be the most important ones, but it’s something to remember –

First, people naturally care, generally above and beyond anything else, about what it is they do… if you are informed enough to step comfortably into their world and talk knowledgeably, their appreciation will be tangible… as William James wrote “the deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated”

Second, a shared meal in your own home is a powerful way to comfort, nurture, and connect people.

Third, consider writing articles for publications. Articles provide a terrific environment for meeting anyone anywhere, The odds will never be stacked so clearly in your favour. Consider sharing credit and offering a byline to the person who becomes most helpful. Welcome their co-authorship… by article’s end, whether it’s been published or not, you’ve managed to learn a great deal and to meet a group of important people who potentially might be important to your future.

Martin Luther said, “Shun solitude. Eve got into trouble when she walked in the garden alone. I have my worst temptations when I am by myself.”

At the moment I don't take Martin Luther seriously - I have been alone for the past six months, and don't feel quite alone, least to say "tempted"! I have learnt to be comfortable with dining alone. I learnt to "fellowship" with those dining in the same eating place.

But, I have no doubt that "eating with friends" gives good feelings! For the time being, I am settled with "eating alone". Almost time for lunch - who do I dine with today?